The clitoris is the primary source of female sexual pleasure (2,4).
Feel-good areas: erogenous zones
Erogenous zones are areas of the body that elicit a sexual response when stimulated. This can include the genital area, nipples, or anywhere, really—whatever you’re into.
The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones due to its high concentration of nerve endings (4,5). By stimulating an erogenous zone, a sexual physiological response can be set into motion.
The clitoris is part of the vulva, the name for the external parts of female genitalia. The vagina is the tube connecting the vulva and the cervix.
Here is a diagram of a vulva:
Stimulation of the clitoris can be applied directly, internally (through the vagina), and/or through stimulation of the other parts of the vulva.
Many people with vaginas—despite perhaps enjoying and getting excited from penetrative sex—don’t always orgasm from intercourse.
Direct stimulation to the glans clitoris or clitoral hood is usually needed for the final push to reach orgasm (1,3).
Where is the clitoris? Let's look at the anatomy.
How to stimulate the clitoris
Every person is different, and has different sexual erogenous zones, desires, and turn ons. We cannot stress this enough! There is no “one best way” to stimulate the clitoris — you’ll need to do some experimenting.
That being said, here are some tips to help you and your partner get off.
1. Set the mood. Be in a place in which you feel comfortable.
If you are with a partner, setting the mood could involve kissing, foreplay, and exploring each other’s bodies.
If you are flying solo, feel free to get comfortable with any other erogenous zones of your body (like your nipples). Don’t forget your mind — if you want and aren’t feeling particularly turned on by your imagination, you can also get your head in the game with some porn or sexy literature.
2. Introduce yourself to the area close to the clitoris.
Using whatever you like: your fingers, your partners finger’s or mouth/tongue, or another (clean) object like a sex toy. You can also try using a shower head, vibrator, or even the friction of your underwear against something, like a pillow. Once you feel comfortable with the area around the clitoris and are ready, it’s time to directly stimulate the clitoris.
3. Starting gently and softly, touch or stroke the clitoris.
The clitoris is not just a magic button, so simply pressing it (for most people) won’t instantly produce an orgasm. Don’t pretend to be a DJ either by forcefully scratching it back and forth—nobody likes that.
4. Take your time.
It’s a small area, and may seem daunting at first. “How can I be creative enough to stimulate such a tiny area of skin?” Listen to your body, or your partner, and get feedback on what feels good.
You could try gentle back and forth motions, small circular motions, or even a light tap.
Engage the clitoral hood too—remember, it also has nerve endings and the body of the body of the clitoris curves back behind it, before becoming buried inside your pelvis. Check in with yourself or your partner—does this feel good?
5. You can start experimenting with pressure, speed, body parts (like tongues if you are with a partner), toys, or vibration.
When most people are turned on, they begin to produce arousal fluid, which can help make stimulating the clitoris and vagina more comfortable.
6. Consider adding some personal lubricant to the mix.
We're big fans of lube.
7. You can also try stimulating the clitoris from the inside using a penis, sex-toy, or fingers.
Not everyone will be able to be stimulated or even reach an orgasm the first time, or every time, they have sex or masturbate—and that’s okay.
The only real important thing is that you enjoy yourself. If you aren’t having fun, don’t do it.
Clitoris research and the G-spot
The clitoris—both its anatomy and function—is a hotly debated topic (1). Taboos about discussing women’s sexuality and pleasure have contributed to the lack of research in these areas. But as taboos are broken, more research will hopefully provide further clarity in understanding the clitoris.
The existence or function of the G-spot is not 100 percent clear. Some research claims it could be associated with female ejaculation (also known as “squirting”) (10,11).
Other researchers suggest that the G-spot isn’t necessarily an actual physical entity, but instead the place where the sides of the vestibular bulbs of the clitoris make contact with the anterior wall of the vagina (12).
This suggests that a “vaginal orgasm” may actually still be connected to the clitoris—each thrust during penetrative vaginal intercourse or contraction of the pelvic muscles—can stimulate the clitoris (1,2,12).
The external part of the clitoris, the glans clitoris, as well as the clitoral hood, can vary greatly from person to person.
Exposure to androgens can cause the clitoris to enlarge during any life stage, including during development in the womb, during childhood, and during adulthood (13). When a clitoris size is large enough to be considered abnormal, this is called clitoralomegaly.
The clitoris and the penis—a shared beginning
The penis and the clitoris are related in structure to one another. In fact, they actually originate from the same developmental tissue (5).
At eight weeks of fetal development, the Y chromosome on male DNA will activate the differentiation of the genital tissue to develop into a penis, instead of a clitoris (3-5). Many of the parts of the clitoris are similar to that of the penis, but differ in shape and size, and are located in different places.
Is the clitoris a small penis—or the penis a giant clitoris?
Everybody reaches orgasm differently. Experimenting with masturbation or sex positions—and having patience—can help you figure out what works best for you.
Article was originally published Feb. 22, 2018.